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Gay Slang: Learn It or Don’t Use It, Sis!

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“Not everything is shade. Sometimes…Well. Somethings I say…or something that is said… It’s not always meant to mean anything besides what it is”. -KidFury

The other day I was listening to The Read like I usually do and I noticed that Kid Fury has been talking about straight people using LGBT slang incorrectly. Now, I’m guilty of using gay slang and I’ve probably used it the wrong way.

Everyone uses the term “shade” nowadays…even straight men. However, a lot of times it’s used in the wrong way. So, I think there should be some clarification for those who dig the slang but are afraid to mess it up. Please do not hesitate to correct me if I’m wrong…I did some slight research.

Some slang that is popular now: Shade, Beat, Tea, Read, Serve, …simple stuff. Now, there are quite a few who don’t even know the definition of these common terms. I’ll help.

Shade: Throwing a diss in a way that those around know it’s personal. When a person is doing you wrong in some way. Ex: That b*tch is throwing shade. She’s telling everybody I’m fast and that’s not true.

Beat: Usually referring to facial makeup; when someone’s makeup is flawless. Ex: Her face is beat!

Tea: The good gossip. Point. Blank. Period. Ex. B*tch! I got all the tea and I’m finna spill!

Read: letting someone have it; to insult or criticize. There are classy reads and reads that incite fights Ex: She’s trying me! And if I see her out, I will read her ass from top to bottom!

Serve: to deliver or present yourself in a particular way. Ex: B*tch is serving Beyonce realness! Crown her King!

See…It’s little things like that, that can make all the difference. Remember, not everything is shade…never go outside looking dusty, always beat that mug…if tea is brewing, be prepared to spill…and if all else fails, always serve Beyonce realness!

 

 

“Wuthering Hearts”: An Open Letter to Our Exes

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Dear (Insert name here),

For a long time I have thought about what I wanted to say to you. I have narrowed it down to two words. Thank you. Thank you for letting me go. When you let me go, I was able to find myself. Thank you for pointing out my flaws. When you pointed out my flaws, I was able to see what makes me, me. Thank you for making me feel so alone when you left. When you left, I was able to see who was still standing by my side. Thank you for breaking my heart. When you broke my heart, I was able to find someone to put the pieces back together: stronger than before. Now, I’m not saying there aren’t stiltimes when I’m driving down the road and I can picture you next to me, holding my hand and smiling. I’m not saying there aren’t times when I hear a song on the radio and I’m instantly taken back to the first night we met. I’m not saying I don’t look through our old pictures from time to time. I’m not saying any of that. I simply want to say thank you. Thank you for the memories, and most of all, giving me the chance to make them with someone else.

Sincerely,

Me

“What’s the T?” Interview: Director Cecilio Asuncion & Star Vi Le

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“What’s the T?”, now available on Hulu, aims to explore the challenges and experiences of five transgender women. Due to the success of TV shows such as “Orange is the New Black” and “Transparent”, the transgender community is becoming a part of the mainstream consciousness.

Bold & Sugar had the pleasure of speaking with Director/Producer Cecilio Asuncion and star Vi Le. Get into our conversation below!

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LGBT and Hip-Hop…Finding the Connect

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“If I was gay, I would think Hip-Hop hates/ Have you read the YouTube comments lately?/ “Man, that’s gay” gets dropped daily/ We become so numb to what we’re saying” -Macklemore

 

I have one focal point for this post: Who made it so the LGBT community and Hip-Hop world can’t intertwine?

I was reading an article in the Huffington Post about the acceptance of Gay rappers. Granted, it was written a year ago…but the message was intriguing to me. Snoop Lion was being interviewed and he spoke of the “masculine aspects of hip-hop music” creating “unique challenges for gay musicians”.

“It’s like a football team,” he said. “You can’t be in a locker room full of motherf**king tough a** dudes, then all of a sudden say, ‘Hey, man, I like you.’ You know, that’s going to be tough.” – Snoop Lion

Funny, I just wrote about Michael Sam..but that’s not the point of this blog… anyways. When asked about Frank Ocean’s coming out blog post, Snoop said,

“He’s a singer. It’s acceptable in the singing world, but in the rap world, I don’t know if it will ever be acceptable because rap is so masculine.”

Interesting.

It should be noted that there are quite a few LGBT artists..not just R&B singers..but rappers, whose music should be on constant airplay. I want highlight newcomer, Angel Haze. She’s said some things about sexuality that I found extremely interesting.

“But just because I didn’t have a coming out moment, didn’t mean I had it easy. I went through so much sh*t. A lot of my friends basically said, ‘Bisexual people are disgusting, you don’t know what you want.’ My family was the hardest, my mom said I was going to burn in hell. My mother’s never been married, she’s never been in a successful relationship, my friends have had boyfriends who abuse them and think that shit’s okay. Yet they think that I’m an abomination. Strangers have attacked me, calling me a ‘f*cking faggot,’ a ‘homo rapper.’ You have to listen to yourself, and go ‘This makes me feel right.’ You’ve found someone you love, deal with it. Love is not a f*cking crime.” -Angel Haze

 

Angel Haze, “pansexual” rapper who is currently taking the airwaves by storm. MTV News reported that Haze said the media is “desexualizing” her relationship with Ireland Baldwin. “An interracial gay couple, I mean that’s just weird for America right now.” 

Interesting. Know what else is interesting? 3 Months before this reports, Snoop altered his opinions on Vh1′s Big Morning Buzz, saying that “the hip-hop community will eventually accept it because there is currently an influx of unity going on in music”.

There’s a change in the Hip-Hop climate. Accept it. There will be popular LGBT rappers in the future…Might as well buckle up, and get ready, because they’re coming and no one can stop em’.

“Modern Families”

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There have been a lot of new television shows showing same sex relationships over the last few years. “Modern Family”, “Orange Is The New Black”, “The Fosters”, “Grey’s Anatomy”, all of these shows have highlighted and normalized same sex relationships. So, what does this mean? Why is this important?

Media is the strongest outlet for reaching the public. Whether it is through news broadcasts, movies, award shows, or television shows; the public tunes in to the media. With television shows having characters in same sex relationships, or celebrities “coming out” in the news, it makes same sex relationships seem not so “different”. I know we are in the 21st century here, so this shouldn’t be an issue anyway, right?

Well, it shouldn’t be an issue, and discrimination should be a thing of the past. But, unfortunately it still exists. By television shows highlighting same sex relationships, it allows the public to engage and even, dare I say it? Fall in love with these characters. I even find myself crushing on Alex Vause (“Orange Is The New Black”) and Arizona Robbins (“Grey’s Anatomy”). I think it is important that we have even more television shows with same sex relationships between characters because it makes it seem normal, and a non-issue (which is fact!). Let’s face it; our society is influenced a lot by what we hear on the news and what we see on television. If we could see a lot more Cam and Mitchell’s and Lena and Stef’s on television, society’s minds and eyes would be much better off.

What Does it Mean to be a “Person”?

 

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If you watch the hit television show Grey’s Anatomy, then you’ve definitely heard the word “person” used before. Cristina and Meredith frequently refer to one another as each other’s “person”. What exactly does that mean though?

If you don’t tune into Grey’s Anatomy, (which you should; the Calzona romance is beautifuland not to mention the infamous and gorgeous McDreamy), then you might not be familiar with this concept. “Person” to me, means a best friend. A soul mate. Someone who understands you better than you understand yourself. A “person” can come from a romantic relationship, or a platonic one. It’s someone who can finish your sentences, and know exactly what you’re thinking at any given moment. It’s someone who knows exactly what that “one look” means, and always knows the right things to say at the right time. Someone who cares about you, and would help you in a moment’s notice no matter what was going on.

Now, why should we care about the concept of a “person”? Well, because you can find your “person” in any aspect of life. In romantic relationships, friendships, family relationships, roommates, and co-workers…the list goes on and on. I think it’s important to think about those people in our lives who are our “person”/”people”, and thank them. Also I think it is important to ask yourself…are you too one of your own “people”? Do you care about yourself? Love yourself? Help yourself too?

Because of Michael Sam…Our Sons Can…

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On Wednesday, I wrote a post about the importance of gay athletes and literally right after…the ESPYs came on…coincidence? I think not. Everybody looked gorge in their black tie..well Russell Westbrook in his rose shirt…but I thought it was incredibly dope that Michael Sam arrived, hand in hand with his boyfriend, Vito Cammisano. They both looked amazing and I must say, they were glowing. Oh, the powers of love. Cammisano looks as if he’s down for the long run, seeing that we met him after Michael received his call from the St. Louis Rams. That is amazing…

For those who don’t know, Michael Sam made ground breaking history this year by being the first openly gay football player drafted into the NFL, and he’s proud of who he is and the decisions that he’s made. Do you all realize that this man…a gay, black NFL player…walked on the red carpet, hand in hand with another man? Despite of what society says, he’s living his dreams in his true skin. That alone gave me goosebumps.

Then, it happened. After receiving the 2014 Arthur Ashe Courage Award, his acceptance speech was enough to pull tears from my eyes.  Go watch it…just…watch it. He discusses how Arthur Ashe’s words, “Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can”, have pushed him through life. He broke each statement down and applied them to his life. When he mentions speaking to the young woman who wanted to kill herself, rather than reveal her sexual orientation, struck many emotions for everyone who watched. He realized just how much impact his decision and life choices have made on others.

Don’t think for one minute that because you’re gay, you can’t be another Michael Sam. He and plenty others don’t even realize that they have made it possible for other LGBT men and women to become openly gay professional athletes. That’s a huge milestone. He says this for all of you… “And finally to anyone out there, especially young people, they feelin’ like they don’t fit in and will never be accepted…please know this. Great things can happen if you have the courage to be yourself”.

Now, if I have a son who wants to play football and who is also gay, he can do that. That is an amazing feeling. Thank you, Michael Sam for being courageous and taking a major step, so those who once couldn’t..can.

“Truth. Be. Told.” TV Series to Document the Lives of Black Gay Visionaries

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A new episodic documentary series, “Truth. Be. Told.” aims to get viewers to ask tough questions, gay or straight, black or white. Who are we really? Where do we come from? How does our identity truly shape who we are as an individual and as a species?

Creator Katina Parker and her team have managed to find more than 60 committed black queer visionaries willing to participate in the project through interviews.

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Bry’Nt Interview: From Gay Fashion Trends to Upcoming Album “Bry’Nt Park”

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We follow each other on Twitter, so of course this was bound to happen. LGBT rapper Bry’Nt has the elements of Hip Hop’s next game-changing artist, with an image and musical catalog that can go toe-to-toe (and most likely destroy) many of his more mainstream contemporaries.

We at Bold & Sugar had the pleasure of speaking with the “Explain” rapper, discussing topics ranging from his career beginnings to his favorite favorite choice of underwear (Wink). Get into our conversation below!

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Why Gay Men Love Beyonce

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Beyonce. Mention that name, and most (not all of course) gay men will squeal in excitement and ask you if you’ve seen/heard the latest thing she’s done. Something as seemingly insignificant as the color of her shoelaces can lead to hours of speculation among gay men (anybody really) when it comes to Beyonce.

But you’d have to be truly unaware to not notice Beyonce’s impact on the gay community. Go to a concert (if you can afford them tickets, chile), and look at who knows 99.99% of the choreography in the audience. It’s gay men, of course! We know all of the moves, facial expressions, and hair flips down to a T.

So what is it about Beyonce that makes us love her so much? Here’s a list of reasons why gay men love Beyonce.

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